Protip for when you need help moving:
- Set and communicate a date well in advance, ideally as soon as you sign the new lease.
- Ask 3x as many people as you think you’ll need.
- Have everything packed when they arrive.
- Only fill boxes with heavy stuff half-way.
- And make absolutely sure there’s food and drink available at all times.
So many friends I’ve helped move who almost seems surprised when we arrive, as if they didn’t know themselves they were moving.
I think most important point is, have your shit packed and ready, nothing more annoying than carrying out a sofa and see them neatly pack LPs or some shit in the background. MF you had a month to do this, I’m not moving for you I’m helping you move.
I helped a friend move in with his girlfriend, and they stood in the door to the new apartment and started arguing about where the large wardrobe should go - while me and another guy were standing on the stairs, carrying it.
When the argument turned to shouting, and they completely ignored us, we set the wardrobe down on the stairs and left.When I moved I had planned out exactly where everything was to go when I got to the new place and boxed and labeled the boxes as to where they needed to be down to what items went into what drawers. I had a binder full of diagrams and everything. The people helping me move just needed to put the boxes in the truck and take them out at the new place based off what color the label on the box was. It was like 3 hours work total. Easiest move I’ve ever been involved in. If I hadn’t done it like that I’d have been so stressed out. It was still really stressful even though it went mostly smoothly. I don’t know how these people that just expect everyone to show up and do it all for them can live their lives like that.
Don’t invite this person. They’ll make errands that should be an hour into a 3 hour escapade while complaining every 25 minutes about being hungry and wanting snacks.
Eat a whole fucking meal, like an adult.
Did my elderly mother suddenly find her way onto the fediverse? She used to say shit like this when I was a toddler.
Going to assume you’re just trauma venting, because clearly toddlers should be eating all the time; they’re small and have small systems, whereas adults can almost always eat enough food to sustain them for 4-5 hours, with a basic understanding of nutrition.
Anyway, sorry your mom was the way she was.
One of the few benefits of going out is getting to reward oneself with a cheeky little nibble.
If we have to spend money to enjoy hanging out, we are not friends. But if you eat some honey roasted almonds from the bag in my center console when I offer, I love you.
We’ve had one snacky snack, yes. What about second snacky snack?
This person sounds incredibly selfish and entitled. I bet they’d expect you to be the one buying the snacks too.
It’s ok to have boundaries. That’s not selfish.
Ultimatems aren’t boundaries.
An ultimatum is you have to do x. A boundary is “I won’t do x”
I won’t go on a trip if there’s no snacks.
Some people will phase ultimatums as boundaries to manipulate, but this isn’t that.
deleted by creator
Look at moneybags over here able to afford eating out in 2025
My kids learned real quick that my Saturday errand runs always end with snacks.
