Krik

I don’t miss carrying 20 kg CRTs.

I’m also 40-something and I see all that stuff around me. It’s hard not to notice. All the (6) colleagues in my office room are divorced and in most cases the (ex-)wife is the reason. And when I see the other women… there aren’t a lot of good choices.

Some guys would do that because they know they won’t have a chance to get a ‘better’ woman.

The problem is women and men are different and they treat each other differently.

No man would would push down a young beautiful woman from the edge of a bed. Women notice that and are flattered that they are wanted so much. Honestly women only need not to be obese and the guys will line up. But that’s only true for young woman. After 30-35-year-old most women beauty diminish rapidly.
Men on the other hand age visibly slowly. A lot of women still judge them handsome when the guys are already 40 or 50 years old. (There are of course ugly 40 and 50 years old.) But young men are more often only playthings and only the 6-6-6 ones have a good shot a being choosy.

Which is true. But! Men <30 years old usually are more tolerant in what they accept. They’ll take almost any woman 18-30 years, low or high income, fat or skinny, beautiful or ugly, etc.

Women below 30 years age on the other hand often are fixated on 6-6-6 rule (6+ foot height, 6 digits income, 6 pack) which are like the top 1% of the male population. Once they are older and want to ‘settle down’ they won’t get any of these top guys because these guys can cherrypick their women. And then the women are disappointed by the ‘left-overs’. I’m not an incel but I can understand why it (sometimes? often?) happens this way.

How to solve this? No idea.
How did couple come together 100 years ago? What did they do different back then?