I’m a guy. I’m using dating apps often (poly) and have found multiple people that I’m currently dating. One person I met there just moved in with me a few weeks ago.

These people I found are the most wonderful I ever met. They’re kind, self-aware, empathetic and aware of the potential pitfalls of these apps.

I like only women I actually like. I have not paid for it. The women I met aren’t doing it for validation.

Yet everything you said is also completely true. But that’s simply because dating apps reflect the real world, you get, in a very small percentage, good people actually worth talking to, and a large majority of people only wanting validation or will say anything for quick sex. Just like you get in real life. Most people in real life are also not worth talking to.

I fully concede that the negative aspects of people are enhanced or at least more visible in dating apps. However, that’s just it, it’s more pronounced, not actually fundamentally different.

… did you read my comment? “Continuing past cues of disinterest is one of the most unattractive things you can do.”

Behavior is part of attractiveness, it’s not only physical.

It’s the expression of interest by unattractive people that is annoying. Continuing past cues of disinterest is one of the most unattractive things you can do.

Because “basic makeup pasted fake ass girls” are also people, they don’t deserve any more hate or dislike than anyone else based on this alone. It can not be your type, but the original person talking about this obviously had a relatively intense dislike/resentment.

I mean, dating apps are also just “real world behavior”, we don’t suddenly leave the real world by picking up a phone.

The effect is just much much more pronounced on dating apps because of logistics, you can’t get hit on by 100 of the hottest guys in your area in 5 minutes in real life, maybe you get hit on by 20 guys the whole evening. And those 20 guys are a local dating pool, which may not necessarily include the 20 hottest guys out of the whole area, so the hottest one of the 20 may still be average.

Or girls who put some effort into their appearance? Fuck those whores trying to look attractive am I right?!

An average guy who shoots his shot is practically already above average. Most don’t shoot their shot, or very very timidly with maximum safety

I have the Aurora store on my /e/os so I can get apps that are on Play Store too. Haven’t noticed any difference in experience except that well, no Play Store is installed.